Time spent so freely and unplanned - those quick chats from passing cars while picking up & dropping off kids - all living our lives on the same time schedule - that all changes when the kids get older and move on to other schools so now us Moms have to create pockets of time for each other in our new schedules.
It took some time after my girls started school for me to feel comfortable with a group of Moms. Investing time on a friendship, revealing pieces of yourself, opening up your soul, building trusts - all takes time. Recalling back to being a teenager when the term 'best friend' was used freely and randomly, while attaching to it all the responsibilties of being a 'best friend', sometimes fell on weak shoulders but then I grew to realize that it was an endearing term to place upon special people. "Best Friend" = "Dear Friend" = "my friend".
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." - Anais Nin
(picture by Dorene)
It's special people that you plan a weekend tucked away in the wine country with. It's special people that you surround yourself with when you don't want to run away but just retreat to rejuvenate and celebrate. It's special people who you sit with as your are and they hold it dear to their hearts.
Finding time when there are 13 kids and 3 husbands between Dorene, Lisa & I was no easy task but we were determined to not let this moment pass. To be honest, as we got closer to the weekend I held my breath - I feared email, answering machine blinking lights and text messages...worse a sick child...but the weekend went off without a hitch as if it was as common as night fall.
(a special reserve bottle of Grenach only to be shared with those you love.)
And as the weekend came to an end and we headed home to fall back to our own daily regimes I was reminded;
"Those truly linked don't need correspondence. When they meet again after many years apart, Their friendship is as true as ever." - Deng Ming-Dao
and I know that the warmth of the laughter and words shared will always be there.
(Aug 10 - 12, 2007)
You know what that weekend reminds me of? That chapter book about the 3 girls; Carsella, Catherina & that one - Reny Deeny Wop Bam Beeny!